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How
to Let Go of Negative Thinking
By Kim Ravida
Before we talk about how we
let go of crappy, negative thinking, let’s define what it is.
Let’s talk about how
negative thoughts can affect your life and well-being.
Negative thinking is having thoughts that don’t
serve us and our highest good.
They are thoughts such
as “I’m not good enough. I suck. Who do I think I am to be doing this” (whatever
this is).
They are the “I
can’t…” thoughts. “I can’t do this, I can’t do that… ” thoughts.
They are the excuses that we tell ourselves why
we can’t do something. They are thoughts that hold us back.
For some of us, the negative thoughts we have
about ourselves we would never say or admit to another person.
Your Thoughts Affect your
Actions
I’d like to share with you that your thoughts
create your actions and your behavior.
And if you are thinking negatively, how likely
are we to take actions that support you or move you forward?
Probably a continuous stream of negative
thinking about what happened or what might happen is going on in your head.
We’ve all heard someone say “I need to
move on” or even “You need to move on.”
If your goal is indeed to move on and
change your negative thinking, how do you do that?
Here are my 7 Steps to Letting Go of Negative
Thinking that will help:
STEP
1: Pay attention to what you are saying both to yourself and out loud.
Notice what is positive and what is negative.
Also, take note of the feelings attached to or associated with it. I used to
say “I can do this!” out loud, but internally I was
saying “Who do I think I am to do this?”
Negative thinking is tricky. Pay close
attention. Once you recognize the negative thinking, move to Step 2.
STEP 2: Create a
turn-around statement.
I used to constantly feel that no matter what I
did, I wasn’t good enough to get to where I wanted to go in my business.
What ended up happening was that I wouldn’t
complete things.
I created a simple turn-around statement that
said: “I know how to take the right amount of action to get me to where
I want to go.” You don’t have to be fancy here.
Just turn your negative thought into a positive
thought.
STEP
3: Write down your turn-around statement and read it throughout your
day.
Especially important when you notice that you
are in a negatively-thinking state and getting yourself caught up in the “I
can’t do this” cycle.
STEP 4: Make an
action plan of concrete steps.
These are steps you will take that will lead you
to your end result. In my example, first I needed to get clear about where I
wanted to go in my business.
At the time, I just wanted clients. I,
therefore, needed to lay the foundation in order to get them and then I needed
to act on it.
STEP
5: Take consistent action no matter how small.
A lot of people are all or nothing. Don’t be
fooled into thinking that if you can’t complete what you want to do in one
sitting, there isn’t any reason to bother starting and/or doing it in the
first place.
By doing just 5, 10, 15 or more minutes of
action a day you can easily and without struggle reach your end result.
STEP 6: Track your progress.
One of my clients decided to rate how he did
with what he was trying to change. He created a chart and would rate on a scale
of 1-10 how he felt he was progressing day-to-day.
He did this to keep himself on target and it
worked. It’s important to be consistent, daily, when trying to make changes in
your life and your behavior and especially in your thinking.
Step
7: Understand and be okay with the fact that you will slide back.
The key is to remember that there is no failure,
only an opportunity to learn.
I had the biggest shift in my business and life
when I started to ask questions of myself: “How could I have done that
better?” and “What will I do differently next time?”
See it’s a different story (and if feels better)
when you ask yourself “What will I do differently next time?” rather
than “What did I do wrong?”
Don’t berate yourself for all the things you
felt you didn’t do and slide back into that negative thought pattern of “I’m
not good enough.”
Remember, you ARE good enough just the way you
are!
Kim
Ravida is a lifestyle and business
coach who helps women in business take powerful money actions and make solid,
productive business decisions that positively impact their life and their
business. Stop banging your head against the wall trying to figure out what to
do first, wasting time and money. Kim Ravida Coaching can help you. Having been
there herself, she has developed a specific system that sets the foundation for
a business that brings in more clients, makes more money and saves tons of time
so you truly can reach your goals and dreams.
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